Nice Guys Finish Last, by Q. Reyes – Artistic Warfare #73

July 11, 2010 Q. Reyes 0 Comments

The fact of the matter is that women love bad guys and feel sorry for good guys.  Most guys try to play that “nice” role because they think that’s what women want.  That’s what women “say” they want, but in reality, it’s the opposite.

We’ve all met that woman being abused or cheated on by some asshole, and we all wonder, “why doesn’t she just leave him?”  It’s not that simple.  Let’s break it down psychologically.

Men are meant to make women feel safe, protected and give them a sense of security.  (Some women may think they don’t need a man to feel that way, and that’s perfectly fine.  I’m speaking of the women that actually like having a man in their lives.)  So a man that is too nice makes women feel a little uncomfortable. Subconsciously they’re not sure if he’d be able to protect them.  That’s why a more “worldly” man is ideal.  A man that’s always out there finding out what’s going on in the world is more likely to know how to protect a woman.

Another factor affecting a women’s perception is how much demand for a man is there – and competition actually turn women on.  Most men try to hide their “dirt”.  This seems like a good idea, but in real life, it impacts relationships in a negative way.  Sounds backwards?  Let’s break it down.

A man that surrounds himself around many women is more likely to be interesting to even more women.  Women wonder, “why is this man so popular with women?”  The answer is simple.  He’s popular because he’s around women who wonder the same thing.

Let me explain further… Women are catty.  They love competition.  Not just women, but humans in general like having things that other people have.  So when a man is available (meaning, he’s playing the role that he’s a good guy, alone, etc.) – that availability turns women off.

In contrast, men that always seem to be around the company of women, make other women compete for his attention.

Take a close look at Rock Stars.  They go on tour and publicly screw every woman in sight, no shame or hiding it.  Does this turn women off?  Nope! On the contrary, the bigger the reputation of screwing around, the more women throw themselves at them.

In a smaller scale, the example above shows that you don’t have to screw a pack of women every night – but however, you can give the illusion that you’re not too far behind.

If you’ve tried the nice guy role and it hasn’t worked for you, or you’re unhappy in your love life, then try surrounding yourself around as many women as you can.  Be in constant company with females, and watch other females get interested in you.

If you’re in a relationship, once in a while you experience some woman giving you extra attention (cashier at Walmart, etc.) and your significant other complains.  Well, she might be complaining because of jealousy, but deep inside she’s proud to have a man that other women want. It’s human nature.

You don’t have to take my word for it.  Competition and demand are bigger turn on’s for women than a “nice guy” image and availability.  Think about it.

Next week I’ll explain the availability rules.  Don’t keep yourself available – it diminishes your value.