The Ugly Truth, by Q. Reyes – Artistic Warfare #80

September 12, 2010 Q. Reyes 2 Comments

It’s not inaccurate to say that most men aspire to seduce the best-looking women they can, and the reverse applies for women.  As humans, we just happen to be attracted to good-looking people.  It’s part of evolution.

What a lot of guys fail to realize is that there is a gold mine of unattractive people looking for attention.  A lot of these people are great people.  They’re fun, smart and possess many other qualities that are hard to judge based on appearance.

There have been great-looking women in my life with whom I cannot hold a conversation; yet, there are some not-so-good-looking women who I love being around.  It’s that simple.

The first instinct is that out of two people, we choose the best looking one.  That sometimes turns out to be a big mistake.  It seems like the right thing to do at the time, but it might not be necessarily so.  There’s a deeper aspect to all of this…

See, most women are insecure (I said “most” not “all” so women, save your “confident” comments to yourselves).  Both men and women share these insecurities, but women actually act out on their insecurities.  The prettiest, finest girl in the world will have something about herself she doesn’t like.  How do ugly people fall into the equation?  Keep reading.

If a man is able to seduce and give attention to a not-so-good-looking woman, this makes the good-looking woman a bit more confident.  They will judge that other person being seduced as less good-looking; therefore, they’ll feel like, comparatively speaking, they’re special in the eyes of that man with low standards.

Believe it or not, high standards scare women away.  When you tell a woman that you only date good-looking people, you make her feel inadequate and self-conscious.  Self-consciousness will ruin any seduction.  If the woman doesn’t feel good enough, she won’t show you how good she really is.

The best choice is to let it be known that you don’t judge people by their physical appearance, but on how cool they are and how fun they’re to be around.  You want to take physicality out of the equation.  Women want to feel beautiful, and you don’t make them feel this with words.  They hear words all the time.  “You’re beautiful, blah, blah, blah”.  That’s not the way.

You make a woman feel beautiful with your gestures, your body language and you prove that she’s beautiful by pointing it out with your actions. DON’T TALK ABOUT IT – that’s lame and it accomplishes the opposite by possibly making her self-conscious.

Going back to the main point, when in a group of people, don’t go for the best-looking person off the bat.  Talk to that one girl that might have a few extra pounds on her, or whatever your definition of non-attractive may be (because I, myself, like a woman with curves… a lot of curves).

By talking to the person getting the least attention, it assures you that YOU will get attention.  Then when it’s time to move on to better-looking women, those women will feel confident around you because they’ll figure, “Well, compared to that girl he was talking to, I’m Ms. Universe.”  You want women to feel that way.  That’s the ugly truth.