Seasons of Love… Yeah Right!, by Tatiana – In The Mix #2
December 25, 2008 Tatiana EL-Khouri 13 Comments
??Christmas is finally upon us! The holiday season has been filled with lights, good cheer, sales galore, and plenty of relationship status changes in my online social networking contacts. It’s amazing how this time of year either inspires people’s inner romantic to jump out and attach themselves to a willing participant or sends people in a committed relationship running for the hills.
In the past few weeks, I’ve seen about 50 of my friends declare their love for a new beau through their Facebook and Myspace profiles. Alternately, I’ve seen quite a number of people announce their arrival back to the singles market just in time to avoid Thanksgiving Dinner with their ex’s family, Christmas gifts, News Years Kiss, and the lead into Valentine’s Day.
Me? Well I haven’t let the spiked Egg Nog or the cold winter nights sway me. I’m still the same easy-going, straight talker I am year around. I usually say what I mean and leave the hidden messages and secret code for logic puzzles. Logic puzzles- yeah I know I’m a nerd at heart! I think I’m a pretty good person on the inside and I’ve been told I’m not bad to look at either and have a very pleasant personality. With that in mind I would like to give men some Christmas advice from me…a regular girl.
1. On a first date-there is a 3 second silent rule when you walk a girl to her door. If 3 seconds elapse with no words exchanged THAT was the time to give the girl a kiss. In other words you blew it.
2. When the check comes, that’s all you buddy, I don’t speak Dutch.
3. If a guy’s small talk is about the Lakers then be prepared to hear about “Sex and the City” BTW-that’s about all the sex we will be talking about.
I kept it short and simple, so you can get back to your Holiday cheer. Whatever celebration you partake in this time of year- Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanzaa, or Winter Solstice- just remember to appreciate the people who offer you love, support and appreciation every day without a holiday prompting gifts and messages of well-being. No holiday tryst, as good as the gifts and “fill in the blank” were, can replace the love of the ones closet to you when you need a pick me up.
I’ve got to get back to my Christmas celebration with the people I love year around- my family and friends. Happy Holidays!!!
Reg Gabriel
December 25, 2008 - 6:56 pm
Tatiana…
We are not worthy…… :-))
or in other words….
U B Bad.
Marc Fishman
December 25, 2008 - 8:56 pm
Merry Christmas Tatiana. I say that unsarcastically.
Still jealous though. 😉
Jim
December 26, 2008 - 12:20 pm
Okay. so I’m not first comment, per se, but I’m close! Next time, next time.
“I don’t speak Dutch.” Bahahaha! Man, a while ago someone told me to “always go Dutch on a first date” and I laughed, but I seriously thought it meant something dirty for months afterwards.
Great statement about holiday trysts. Amen to family and friends!
Mike Raub
December 27, 2008 - 7:31 am
“…when you walk a girl to her door…”
So I don’t say “here’s where you get out?”
Damn! THAT’s what I was doing wrong! Thanks for the tip, Tatiana!
Sincerely,
Kissless in ’08
Happy New Year 😉
Donna
December 27, 2008 - 11:33 am
“When the check comes, that’s all you buddy, I don’t speak Dutch.”
ROFL! Apparently, you don’t speak “manchild” either. Which is awesome! That’s my word of choice for certain men, and well… it’s a pretty self-explanatory word. Actually, I do sometimes think it’s fair to split bills at least on occasion (more so if you are in a long-term/committed relationsihp and you end up splitting the cost of stuff to keep yourselves fair to each other and what not), but as far as a first date goes your point totally stands.
And for sure, I agree with your sentiments on Christmas being a time to bond with the people you always love “year-round.” Hope you’re having a great Holiday season and that you have a great New Year, Tatiana!!
Sincerely,
Donna
Tatiana
December 28, 2008 - 3:47 pm
@ Donna – I love that word “manchild!”
I agree dutch all the way when it’s a committed relationship. There has got to be give and take.
Tatiana
December 28, 2008 - 3:48 pm
@ Marc – Thanks for the Holiday wishes. I look forward to your sarcastic comments after the holidays pass.
Tatiana
December 28, 2008 - 8:23 pm
@ Reg – Thanks for the support!
Tatiana
December 28, 2008 - 11:12 pm
@ Jim – Better late than never.
JD
December 29, 2008 - 12:06 am
Tatiana, that’s probably the smartest, most succinct piece of singles advice i’ve heard in a while. Rockin’ and wise …
Tatiana
December 30, 2008 - 2:15 am
@ JD – That’s quite the compliment. Welcome to the site!
Tatiana
December 30, 2008 - 2:17 am
@ Mike – Glad you enjoyed the tip! I hope 2009 brings you all that your dating dreams desire.
Swift
January 5, 2009 - 2:29 am
…Well winter is a time for relationships..but those same myspace/facebook pages will probably say ‘Single’ by Summer. And those who have time to login everyday, decorate, & update their page with 100’s of photos probably aren’t spending enough time with their significant other to begin with.
….A gentleman should always pay during the dating period.
….The ‘1st Kiss’ has lost it’s value over the years Tatiana, along with conversation. This is why small their talk in person sucks….I blame Technology. If your initial 3 convo’s are thru Text, BBM, or IM. It wont last. If you send people to the voicemail and reply back to them with a text saying, “whats up, just saw ur missed call” it wont last.
…One might say, but Swift “I’m extremely busy”.
BS, We are all grown, we are all busy. Some us busier than others. But one thing I’ve learned over the years is that People Make Time for Things They Wanna Make Time For!