Why Men Cheat, by Q. Reyes – Artistic Warfare #47

November 8, 2009 Q. Reyes 3 Comments

I don’t know why the hell men cheat.  I know why I do it, or should I say, have done it.  It’s nothing personal against the other person, and has nothing to do with love or anything of that matter, at least not in my case (or cases).

Men, for the most part, start with the intention of faithfulness, and through a relationship this intention gets stronger and deeper.  Still, psychologically it is true that you desire most that which you shouldn’t or can’t have.  That’s how men work.  Tell us we can’t eat a cheeseburger and we’ll crave and hunt down a cheeseburger until we feel guilty.

To put things in context, women take men’s cheating personally.  Like if it’s a personal attack on their person, mind, body and soul – and the truth is that the culprit of all that pain is not the act of cheating, but the BETRAYAL.

Betrayal is bad.  That’s when you put your trust on someone that not only let you down, but also did the unthinkable.  That’s where the pain lies.  But if you want to understand why men cheat, then you must not think emotionally.  You must think with a clear emotional canvas, women (if that’s even possible).

A man looks at a woman initially like a piece of meat and two outcomes come from this: Meat I would eat or meat I wouldn’t eat.  That’s it.  We’re not looking at a woman’s brain and getting turned on by their IQ.  Not at first, at least.

A man’s initial attraction to a woman is purely biological.  It has to do with actual chemistry – not the concept of chemistry – but the actual mixture of physical elements.  Therefore, if the chemistry and OPPORTUNITY are strong enough, a man will cheat.

You might be asking, where do integrity and morals and discipline come into play? That’s the second part of it all.  All of that comes from your upbringing.  I, myself, grew up without a father and further, the role models in my life were not very good people who grew without fathers too.

So here I am trying to do what society and women deem is the right thing to do, and I find myself failing over and over again.  I always start with an “A” in the beginning of the semester and by mid-course I’m getting expelled out of the school.

So bottom line, women: Stop putting men in a pedestal and that way you’ll stop getting hurt so much.  I’m going to go ahead and say it.  There are no faithful men out there; there are only men that never get caught.

Now if you’re free from sin, toss the first stone.