How to Seduce Women AMENDED PART 1 by Q. Reyes – Artistic Warfare #53

December 20, 2009 Q. Reyes 1 Comment

I had to reopen this column and make amendments that will clear up some of the misunderstandings regarding this topic.  I knew ahead of time that this topic is one that is usually discussed among straight men and by posting it in a public forum, would cause some discomfort with some readers.

I have to say that I’ve just read one of the most brilliant pieces of writing from an astonishing person whom I don’t have the pleasure of knowing beyond the written form.  That column was “The Girlfriend Experience” by Martha Thomases.  I have to say that I read the post quite a few times and I have attempted to grasp the depth of it’s meaning.

However, in reading some of the comments, I can see how the concept of dominance can be a pebble in some people’s shoes.  That’s perfectly fine.  It is meant to be, since comfort only leads to irrelevancy.

The fact is that regardless of what we “think” we want, what we actually end up getting in reality is quite different.  We might want to see ourselves as “great” or “giving” but in real life we are possibly “procrastinators” and “selfish”.  This is okay.  It is human nature to have a skewed self-perception.

Now, I might ruffle some feathers by saying that, SOME women think they want that man that’s going to be loving, interested, honest, faithful and all those other qualities that seem to be ideal.  The bottom line is that even though some women do truly believe this is what they want, they usually end up with the opposite or worse.  Want to know why?  Because opposites attract.  For every positive, there’s an equal negative, and this is why good women get their heart broken.

Some women may aspire to find that great man, but the fact is that “great man” is boring.  He offers nothing stimulating and your interest will be cut short once you find yourself fantasizing about having a little fun or excitement.  Please refrain from commenting on this statement.  I know there are exceptions out there.  I know everyone feels their partner is that “honest to goodness great person” and that “their partner would never (or have never) been dishonest or unfaithful.”  That’s a good perspective to have in order to keep peace in a relationship, but there’s no way to ever know 100 percent for sure.  Ask Tiger Wood’s wife.

The point I want to make here was brought up by the brilliant Ms. Thomases.  There are many different types of women out there and not all are looking to be dominated.  Actually, there’s not a woman out there that is actively looking for that domination – BUT once they find themselves engulf in dominance, it’s pretty hard to break free.

I’m not speaking of PHYSICAL dominance or domination.  So please, there’s no need to compare seduction and persuasion to rape.  I don’t even know where that came from, but please, do not read between the lines.

I’m speaking of confidence and assertiveness.  That’s what dominates a woman’s mind.  The conquest of a woman has nothing to do with the woman being anything less than a man.  It is the opposite.  Women are so great, that they are worth the time and effort to learn to push their buttons.

You don’t open the hood of your car and blindly start fixing the motor.  You at least need the basic knowledge of how a car motor works – and even then, you don’t necessarily have the skills to fix anything, anyway.

So women are the same way.  You can’t just assume that because you have a mother or sister or female friends that you know how to treat a woman.

Martha provided me some of the best insight and suggestions as far as where to find a better quality of women.  I’m enrolling back in school ASAP.  I’m taking at least one class that will expose me to that certain crème of women.  I’m also going to start volunteering and giving my time to worthy causes that will also open me up to meeting better quality companions.

Keep in mind, though, that I will still need to have at least a limited amount of “persuasiveness” in order to approach and be successful with these women.  Actually, I need to be many times better, since these will be cohesive, smart women that will smell BS from a mile away.

By the way, I’m not misogynistic at all.  I didn’t even know what that word meant.  I had to google it.  It says that it’s a hatred or mistrust towards women.  I laugh.  It’s all but the opposite.  I am so amazed by women and everything they are.  That’s why I feel I must have been a lesbian in a past life.  How else could I explain the excitement I feel whenever I see long hair from afar? Yes, the excitement goes away when the long hair turns out to be a guy – but you catch my drift.

Look, you are right, Martha.  I’ve been going through a lot as of lately – but in all honesty, I’ve been going through a lot my whole life.  I’ve been married twice and I’m currently looking for my next ex-wife.  I’ve learned to accept who I am.  I have to also admit that I’ve been quite successful with women (not relationships).  I agree that my approach might be unorthodox, but it works for me.  Plus, keep in mind that I’m not going up to women and telling them “Hey, you woman! I shall dominate you”.  I do all my controlling dominating with a genuine smile and good intentions.  My true goal is to make women happy.  It makes me happy.