The Great Rejection by Q. Reyes – Artistic Warfare #78

August 29, 2010 Q. Reyes 6 Comments

We all face rejection at one point or another – whether at work or relationships. Rejection hurts our ego and we always attempt to avoid the bad feeling that lingers after a turn-down.

Yet, rejection is one of the most productive things that can happen in our lives.  Michael Jordan was rejected from his the basketball team once upon a time.  What if he stopped trying? That rejection he faced might have been the motivational catalyst that made him work harder and become one of the greatest.

We should learn to use rejection to our advantage.  There’s a lesson from rejection and if we put our feelings and emotions aside, we can grow from the experience.

When it comes to women, rejection is the key to understanding yourself.  If you face rejection with open arms, then it becomes something natural and it does not bother you.  So, if for every nine women that reject you one happens to give you the time of day, then that makes the other rejections worth something.

One of the biggest obstacles from being afraid of rejection is that we don’t take action.  We rather sit on the sidelines rather than go out to the field and face the possibility of dropping the ball.  The fact is that sitting on the sidelines is worse than the possibility of dropping the ball – because you can’t score from the sidelines.

Becoming good at something requires an intense amount of practice. Embracing rejection is one of those things that you have to face over and over until your perspective changes and you start to view it as a good thing.

When things in life go perfect, as soon as something bad happens, we have to scramble to figure out what happened.  But when you have nothing but struggle and rejection in your life, you are actually becoming stronger, smarter and are able to deal with pretty much anything, good or bad.

A lot of guys are afraid to approach a woman because they do not want the rejection that is likely to occur from the interaction.  Yet, by not approaching her at all, rejection becomes one hundred percent imminent.  At least by making the attempt, he’s able to have a possibility of success.

Managing rejection is not only good for relationships, but for work, as well.  If you apply for one job, and you sit back and wait and hope for that one job to happen, your chances are very slim.  Yet, if you apply for ten jobs, the likelihood that one of those jobs comes through is very good.

The only way to kick rejection in the butt is by playing the odds.  The more attempts you make, the higher your chances of getting what you want.